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May 10, 2005
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In this edition you will find the following:
An Introduction to the newsletter and the
MyPowerfulMind.com web site.
Life Coaching or Personal Coaching - What it is, How it
works, and a fantastic free offer for you.
Another free gift for you.
What is coming up in the next few weeks.
Article - Discovering Your Values
Guest Article - The Power of Negative Thinking
And don't miss some great quotes at the end.
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We all know what a sports coach does. Almost every athlete
in the world, from school pupils to world champions has a
coach. Even world champions like Tiger Woods, who knows
more about how to be a successful golfer than probably
anyone else in the world, has a coach. Why is that?
The answer is simply because having a coach achieves better
results than not having a coach. Tiger Woods' coach doesn't
know as much about golf as Tiger Woods does, but he does
understand very well how Tiger Woods' mind works, and when
they work together Tiger's golf gets better.
Sixteen years ago, when I trained as a coach, almost all of
the few other trained coaches that I knew worked, as I did,
exclusively with managers and account managers in the large
companies that we worked for. These days people from all
walks of life use coaches to help them get more out of
They might be people who are not completely delighted with
their relationships, but want to be, or people in business
who want to move their business to the next level, or
perhaps someone that wants help to clarify their goals or
their life purpose, or many other things. Anyone who has a
dream inside them, and who wants to make sure that when
they die, they have lived the dream. Coaching is now
usually done by telephone, so there is no travel, and you
can be in the comfort of your own home or office.
The fact that you are bothering to read this, probably
means that you are the sort of person who would get benefit
from having a coach. If there is anything in your life that
you really want to change - I don't mean that you would
like to change - I mean that it is important enough to you
that you will be open to changing the way you think and act
in order to achieve it, then a coach would help you get
there faster and more certainly.
If you have never had a coach before, or if you would like
to know what a coach could do for you, I have a very
special offer for you. Visit my coaching page at
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/coaching.html and you will
find out more about what I do as a coach, and how that
could help you. On that page you will see a special offer
which I am making today. For the first ten people who
apply, I am offering a free coaching session. So if you
would like to see if a coach could help you achieve
something you want to do, or you want help to find out what
you want to do, or you just want to experience a coaching
session so that you know what happens go to
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/coaching.html and follow the
link to set up an appointment. I'll call you so you won't
even have telephone charges to pay. No, there is no catch,
except that you need to take action because I intend to
remove the links to the free offer when 10 people have
MORE FREE GIFTS
In 1910 a man called Wallace D. Wattles wrote a book which
has been attributed with changing the way that we approach
things when we want to get more out of life. I use a number
of his ideas in my "The Power of the Mind" training. I have
now placed an audio recording of his book "The Science of
Getting Rich" on the website at
It is a reading of the complete book, but the language has
been changed to modern english, so it is easy to
understand. The recording is divided into four 30 minute
sections, which you can listen to online, or download to
your PC. The files are wav files, so use Windows Media
Player, or a similar player to listen to them.
WHAT IS COMING UP:
The next 'The Power of the Mind' training is scheduled in
Oulu starting Saturday June 11th. Many of you have spoken
to me or sent email asking about this training, but so far
no-one has actually booked. I need five people on the
course to justify my traveling to Oulu to run it. So if you
have been thinking about this, it is now time to make a
decision, and take action. If I have five bookings by 5pm
on Wednesday, I will confirm the room booking and the
course will be on. Otherwise I will cancel it.
To find out more about this incredible training program go
It is truely a life changing program, don't miss it.
DISCOVERING YOUR VALUES
In the last newsletter we talked about ’Your Reason Why’,
and how having emotional reasons for doing things gives
them real power.
The next logical thing to consider is how do we find our
In doing this I am aware that everyone is at a different
place in their lives. Some have thought about these
questions often, and others are only aware of what things
they enjoy. The method that I will outline here is just one
way that has worked for me. Feel free to take what you want
from it, and leave out or change what does not feel right
to you. Also be aware that this is not a process that is
done once, and is finished. It evolves and changes over
time. It is not necessary to do each step until you are 100
percent satisfied with it, before moving on to the next
step. However, I believe it is necessary to do each step,
and to write down the results of each step, and then to
review and update that document periodically.
The first step is to define your vision statement. If
everything was perfect, how would the world look?
For a start you may like to just define how your town would
look, or how your family would be, or how your work place
would be. This works best if your vision is for something
bigger than just yourself, so if you need to, reduce the
scope from the world, down to a manageable part of the
world, or a manageable area of life. You may like to
initially limit this to just thinking about something that
will make you feel satisfied or fulfilled.
There are a number of questions you can ask to help you in
defining your vision. Questions like:
• What do you enjoy doing?
• What are you really passionate about?
• What do you hate?
• What was the time in your life when you were most happy,
and why was that?
• What difference would you like to make for yourself, for
your family, community, or for the planet?
• What would you like people to say about you at your
• If you knew that you would die tonight, and everyone came
to a big meeting to hear your last words, what would be in
your 15 minute speech? Visualise that you are on the stage
at that meeting, see everyone’s faces, feel the atmosphere
and emotion, and see the effect that your words are having
on the people.
From the answers to these questions, and others like them,
you can start to see what your real values are. They might
be things like self discovery, love, contributing to
something, creativity, or adventure. Review what you come
up with to see if it is a real value, or a symptom of a
value or a need. For example if you had hard work as a
value, you may find when you thought about it, that this
was a symptom of your desire for recognition, or of a value
to be productive. Hard work may not be the actual value,
and the real value may be able to be satisfied in another
From these values you have discovered about yourself
describe your vision. What does your perfect world, or part
of your perfect world, look like? You should feel yourself
getting emotionally involved in that vision. If you don’t,
then go back and look at it again, until you have a vision
that inspires you. It is not a problem if it takes time to
come up with an inspiring vision, but it is a problem to
move on to the next steps if you don’t have an inspiring
vision, that you feel emotionally involved with.
Once you have your vision, the next step is to decide on
your role or mission in achieving that vision. How will you
bring about that vision, or contribute towards bringing it
about. This does not have to be very specific. It's purpose
is just to act as a bridge between the inspiring vision and
the specific actions and projects that you will be a part
of, in contributing towards that vision. As an example,
your vision might be to live in your community, where
everyone there feels free to express their opinions openly
and without fear. You might see your role or mission in
achieving that as being to use and teach others effective
Now that we have our inspiring vision and our mission, it
is time to define the projects that we could get involved
in. There could be any number of these, but I suggest you
start with at least 30. These are the things you could
imagine that you might do to contribute towards your
inspiring vision. They could be things like find a partner,
write a book, get elected to public office, progress your
career or speak to 100 people about your vision. Have fun
with this. Be creative. Switch off your reality checker
while you do this. Be as unrestricted and open as you can.
When you have a list of projects, group them together. One
group might be career related, and another might be family
related for example. This will help you to define more
projects that fit in each group. If you find that one of
your projects is actually several smaller projects, then
record the smaller projects.
Most people that have taken the trouble to go through a
goal setting exercise stop at this point and start planning
the activities that each project requires. I suggest that
this is the reason that many goal setting exercises don’t
produce long lasting results, or really powerful results.
There are still a couple of steps to follow.
Review the projects you have listed to see if any of them
imply a value that you have, which you did not identify
earlier. If so add that value to your list. Then look at
your list of values and see if they are all satisfied by
the projects you have identified. You may want to do this
exercise several times, and in the process may find that
you rewrite your vision and role statements as well.
Now to the step which is seldom done, but which can make a
huge difference to the satisfaction and the results you get
Take the list of projects that you have, and try to define
a life based on those projects.
Once again be open and creative. Don’t limit yourself to
your current view of reality. Your view of reality is just
the result of the conditioning you have been exposed to and
the habits you have developed. If there is someone you
admire, then try to imagine what their view of reality is,
and use that rather than your own view.
Try to see ways that several of the projects, perhaps from
different groups, could be combined together.
In our earlier example, your vision was to live in your
community, where everyone there feels free to express their
opinions openly and without fear. You see your role or
mission in achieving that as being to use and teach others
effective communication techniques. Your list of projects
might have included learning Non-Violent Communication
skills, teaching these skills to your fellow workers,
having enough money so that you only needed to work part
time so that you could devote more time to teaching
communication skills, and perhaps running for a seat on the
local community council in order to promote your values in
These projects came from different project groups. Learning
Non-Violent Communication skills from your self development
projects group and moving to part time work from your
career group, for example.
By thinking creatively across the various groups you may
come up with a life definition where you lobby the council
to create a new paid role for a social worker who will work
in the community teaching communication skills. You will
fill that role, perhaps part time initially, and expand it
into a full time role. You will perform it in such a way
that you gain recognition for your work, and move into a
self employed position as a consultant advising communities
around the country about improving the quality of community
I’m sure that you can see the real emotional pull that this
life definition has, compared to just the vision, mission
and project list that we started with.
If you would like help or support in arriving at your life
definition, and you have not applied for a free coaching
session, go to
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/page/page/1972025.htm now and
fill out the application. It will only take a few minutes,
and could be the step you take that changes your life for
GUEST ARTICLE - THE POWER OF NEGATIVE THINKING
The Power of Negative Thinking
Other people's self-fulfilling prophecies can hurt you,
suggests study on parents' beliefs and kids' drinking
1/4/2005 3:28 PM
While research has shown the power of self-fulfilling
prophecies to negatively affect their owner's behavior, new
evidence has underscored just how much they can negatively
affect the behavior of others.
American researcher Stephanie Madon and colleagues at Iowa
State University in Ames examined the power of negative
thinking by studying how the false beliefs of mothers and
fathers predict the amount of drinking by their adolescent
children over a year.
The researchers examined 115 parents and their
seventh-grade children. Parents completed questionnaires
measuring their beliefs about their kids' alcohol use.
Their children also filled out questionnaires, assessing
their past alcohol use at the beginning of the study and a
Parents' negative beliefs predicted their children's
alcohol use beyond risk factors, a self-fulfilling prophecy
effect that was strongest when both parents overestimated
their child's alcohol use. When both parents underestimated
their child's alcohol use, there appeared to be no such
positive synergistic effect.
One parent underestimating their child's alcohol use,
however, did appear to have a protective effect, as
children reported drinking less.
The research is reported in the journal Psychological
Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity
on the inside. - Brian Tracy
Some people say I have attitude - maybe I do. But I think
you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one
else does - that makes you a winner right there. - Venus
Williams US tennis champion
Happiness is essentially a state of going somewhere,
wholeheartedly, one-directionally, without regret or
reservation. - William H. Sheldon
An army of sheep led by a lion would defeat an army of
lions led by a sheep. - Arab proverb
That is all for this newsletter. Until next time I wish you
all the best.
To your Success.