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May 10, 2005

Welcome to the MyPowerfulMind.com newsletter.  
 
To visit the website go to www.mypowerfulmind.com  
 
In this edition you will find the following:  
An Introduction to the newsletter and the 
MyPowerfulMind.com web site. 
Life Coaching or Personal Coaching - What it is, How it 
works, and a fantastic free offer for you. 
Another free gift for you. 
What is coming up in the next few weeks.  
Article - Discovering Your Values 
Guest Article - The Power of Negative Thinking 
And don't miss some great quotes at the end.  
 
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INTRODUCTION:  
This newsletter is in plain text, so that everyone can read 
it, no matter what email software they are using. It may 
not look as pretty as some newsletters but I hope you feel 
that the content more than makes up for that. You can also 
read it online by going to  
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/newsletters/newsletter/1793373/15939.htm 
 
 
Please forward or pass this on to anyone you know who may  
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LIFE COACHING 
 
We all know what a sports coach does. Almost every athlete 
in the world, from school pupils to world champions has a 
coach. Even world champions like Tiger Woods, who knows 
more about how to be a successful golfer than probably 
anyone else in the world, has a coach. Why is that?  
 
The answer is simply because having a coach achieves better 
results than not having a coach. Tiger Woods' coach doesn't 
know as much about golf as Tiger Woods does, but he does 
understand very well how Tiger Woods' mind works, and when 
they work together Tiger's golf gets better.  
 
Sixteen years ago, when I trained as a coach, almost all of 
the few other trained coaches that I knew worked, as I did, 
exclusively with managers and account managers in the large 
companies that we worked for. These days people from all 
walks of life use coaches to help them get more out of 
life.  
 
They might be people who are not completely delighted with 
their relationships, but want to be, or people in business 
who want to move their business to the next level, or 
perhaps someone that wants help to clarify their goals or 
their life purpose, or many other things. Anyone who has a 
dream inside them, and who wants to make sure that when 
they die, they have lived the dream. Coaching is now 
usually done by telephone, so there is no travel, and you 
can be in the comfort of your own home or office. 
 
The fact that you are bothering to read this, probably 
means that you are the sort of person who would get benefit 
from having a coach. If there is anything in your life that 
you really want to change - I don't mean that you would 
like to change - I mean that it is important enough to you 
that you will be open to changing the way you think and act 
in order to achieve it, then a coach would help you get 
there faster and more certainly. 
 
If you have never had a coach before, or if you would like 
to know what a coach could do for you, I have a very 
special offer for you. Visit my coaching page at 
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/coaching.html and you will 
find out more about what I do as a coach, and how that 
could help you. On that page you will see a special offer 
which I am making today. For the first ten people who 
apply, I am offering a free coaching session. So if you 
would like to see if a coach could help you achieve 
something you want to do, or you want help to find out what 
you want to do, or you just want to experience a coaching 
session so that you know what happens go to 
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/coaching.html and follow the 
link to set up an appointment. I'll call you so you won't 
even have telephone charges to pay. No, there is no catch, 
except that you need to take action because I intend to 
remove the links to the free offer when 10 people have 
applied.  
 
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MORE FREE GIFTS 
 
In 1910 a man called Wallace D. Wattles wrote a book which 
has been attributed with changing the way that we approach 
things when we want to get more out of life. I use a number 
of his ideas in my "The Power of the Mind" training. I have 
now placed an audio recording of his book "The Science of 
Getting Rich" on the website at 
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/scienceofgettingrich.html  
It is a reading of the complete book, but the language has 
been changed to modern english, so it is easy to 
understand. The recording is divided into four 30 minute 
sections, which you can listen to online, or download to 
your PC. The files are wav files, so use Windows Media 
Player, or a similar player to listen to them. 
 
WHAT IS COMING UP:  
 
The next 'The Power of the Mind' training is scheduled in 
Oulu starting Saturday June 11th. Many of you have spoken 
to me or sent email asking about this training, but so far 
no-one has actually booked. I need five people on the 
course to justify my traveling to Oulu to run it. So if you 
have been thinking about this, it is now time to make a 
decision, and take action. If I have five bookings by 5pm 
on Wednesday, I will confirm the room booking and the 
course will be on. Otherwise I will cancel it.  
To find out more about this incredible training program go  
to http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/tpotm.html 
It is truely a life changing program, don't miss it.  
 
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DISCOVERING YOUR VALUES 
 
In the last newsletter we talked about ’Your Reason Why’, 
and how having emotional reasons for doing things gives 
them real power. 
 
The next logical thing to consider is how do we find our 
reason why. 
 
In doing this I am aware that everyone is at a different 
place in their lives. Some have thought about these 
questions often, and others are only aware of what things 
they enjoy. The method that I will outline here is just one 
way that has worked for me. Feel free to take what you want 
from it, and leave out or change what does not feel right 
to you. Also be aware that this is not a process that is 
done once, and is finished. It evolves and changes over 
time. It is not necessary to do each step until you are 100 
percent satisfied with it, before moving on to the next 
step. However, I believe it is necessary to do each step, 
and to write down the results of each step, and then to 
review and update that document periodically. 
 
The first step is to define your vision statement. If 
everything was perfect, how would the world look? 
 
For a start you may like to just define how your town would 
look, or how your family would be, or how your work place 
would be. This works best if your vision is for something 
bigger than just yourself, so if you need to, reduce the 
scope from the world, down to a manageable part of the 
world, or a manageable area of life. You may like to 
initially limit this to just thinking about something that 
will make you feel satisfied or fulfilled.  
 
There are a number of questions you can ask to help you in 
defining your vision. Questions like: 
• What do you enjoy doing? 
• What are you really passionate about? 
• What do you hate? 
• What was the time in your life when you were most happy, 
and why was that? 
• What difference would you like to make for yourself, for 
your family, community, or for the planet? 
• What would you like people to say about you at your 
funeral? 
• If you knew that you would die tonight, and everyone came 
to a big meeting to hear your last words, what would be in 
your 15 minute speech? Visualise that you are on the stage 
at that meeting, see everyone’s faces, feel the atmosphere 
and emotion, and see the effect that your words are having 
on the people. 
 
From the answers to these questions, and others like them, 
you can start to see what your real values are. They might 
be things like self discovery, love, contributing to 
something, creativity, or adventure. Review what you come 
up with to see if it is a real value, or a symptom of a 
value or a need. For example if you had hard work as a 
value, you may find when you thought about it, that this 
was a symptom of your desire for recognition, or of a value 
to be productive. Hard work may not be the actual value, 
and the real value may be able to be satisfied in another 
way.  
 
From these values you have discovered about yourself 
describe your vision. What does your perfect world, or part 
of your perfect world, look like? You should feel yourself 
getting emotionally involved in that vision. If you don’t, 
then go back and look at it again, until you have a vision 
that inspires you. It is not a problem if it takes time to 
come up with an inspiring vision, but it is a problem to 
move on to the next steps if you don’t have an inspiring 
vision, that you feel emotionally involved with.  
 
Once you have your vision, the next step is to decide on 
your role or mission in achieving that vision. How will you 
bring about that vision, or contribute towards bringing it 
about. This does not have to be very specific. It's purpose 
is just to act as a bridge between the inspiring vision and 
the specific actions and projects that you will be a part 
of, in contributing towards that vision. As an example, 
your vision might be to live in your community, where 
everyone there feels free to express their opinions openly 
and without fear. You might see your role or mission in 
achieving that as being to use and teach others effective 
communication techniques. 
 
Now that we have our inspiring vision and our mission, it 
is time to define the projects that we could get involved 
in. There could be any number of these, but I suggest you 
start with at least 30. These are the things you could 
imagine that you might do to contribute towards your 
inspiring vision. They could be things like find a partner, 
write a book, get elected to public office, progress your 
career or speak to 100 people about your vision. Have fun 
with this. Be creative. Switch off your reality checker 
while you do this. Be as unrestricted and open as you can. 
 
When you have a list of projects, group them together. One 
group might be career related, and another might be family 
related for example. This will help you to define more 
projects that fit in each group. If you find that one of 
your projects is actually several smaller projects, then 
record the smaller projects. 
 
Most people that have taken the trouble to go through a 
goal setting exercise stop at this point and start planning 
the activities that each project requires. I suggest that 
this is the reason that many goal setting exercises don’t 
produce long lasting results, or really powerful results. 
There are still a couple of steps to follow. 
 
Review the projects you have listed to see if any of them 
imply a value that you have, which you did not identify 
earlier. If so add that value to your list. Then look at 
your list of values and see if they are all satisfied by 
the projects you have identified. You may want to do this 
exercise several times, and in the process may find that 
you rewrite your vision and role statements as well. 
 
Now to the step which is seldom done, but which can make a 
huge difference to the satisfaction and the results you get 
from life.  
 
Take the list of projects that you have, and try to define 
a life based on those projects.  
 
Once again be open and creative. Don’t limit yourself to 
your current view of reality. Your view of reality is just 
the result of the conditioning you have been exposed to and 
the habits you have developed. If there is someone you 
admire, then try to imagine what their view of reality is, 
and use that rather than your own view. 
 
Try to see ways that several of the projects, perhaps from 
different groups, could be combined together. 
 
In our earlier example, your vision was to live in your 
community, where everyone there feels free to express their 
opinions openly and without fear. You see your role or 
mission in achieving that as being to use and teach others 
effective communication techniques. Your list of projects 
might have included learning Non-Violent Communication 
skills, teaching these skills to your fellow workers, 
having enough money so that you only needed to work part 
time so that you could devote more time to teaching 
communication skills, and perhaps running for a seat on the 
local community council in order to promote your values in 
the community. 
 
These projects came from different project groups. Learning 
Non-Violent Communication skills from your self development 
projects group and moving to part time work from your 
career group, for example.  
 
By thinking creatively across the various groups you may 
come up with a life definition where you lobby the council 
to create a new paid role for a social worker who will work 
in the community teaching communication skills. You will 
fill that role, perhaps part time initially, and expand it 
into a full time role. You will perform it in such a way 
that you gain recognition for your work, and move into a 
self employed position as a consultant advising communities 
around the country about improving the quality of community 
life. 
 
I’m sure that you can see the real emotional pull that this 
life definition has, compared to just the vision, mission 
and project list that we started with. 
 
If you would like help or support in arriving at your life 
definition, and you have not applied for a free coaching 
session, go to 
http://www.mypowerfulmind.com/page/page/1972025.htm now and 
fill out the application. It will only take a few minutes, 
and could be the step you take that changes your life for 
ever.  
 
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GUEST ARTICLE - THE POWER OF NEGATIVE THINKING 
 
The Power of Negative Thinking  
 
 
Other people's self-fulfilling prophecies can hurt you, 
suggests study on parents' beliefs and kids' drinking 
habits  
Betterhumans Staff  
1/4/2005 3:28 PM 
 
 
While research has shown the power of self-fulfilling 
prophecies to negatively affect their owner's behavior, new 
evidence has underscored just how much they can negatively 
affect the behavior of others.  
 
American researcher Stephanie Madon and colleagues at Iowa 
State University in Ames examined the power of negative 
thinking by studying how the false beliefs of mothers and 
fathers predict the amount of drinking by their adolescent 
children over a year.  
 
The researchers examined 115 parents and their 
seventh-grade children. Parents completed questionnaires 
measuring their beliefs about their kids' alcohol use. 
Their children also filled out questionnaires, assessing 
their past alcohol use at the beginning of the study and a 
year later.  
 
Parents' negative beliefs predicted their children's 
alcohol use beyond risk factors, a self-fulfilling prophecy 
effect that was strongest when both parents overestimated 
their child's alcohol use. When both parents underestimated 
their child's alcohol use, there appeared to be no such 
positive synergistic effect.  
 
One parent underestimating their child's alcohol use, 
however, did appear to have a protective effect, as 
children reported drinking less.  
 
The research is reported in the journal Psychological 
Science at 
http://www.blackwellpublishing.com/journal.asp?ref=0956-7976 
 
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QUOTES  
 
Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity 
on the inside. - Brian Tracy 
 
Some people say I have attitude - maybe I do. But I think 
you have to. You have to believe in yourself when no one 
else does - that makes you a winner right there. - Venus 
Williams US tennis champion 
 
Happiness is essentially a state of going somewhere, 
wholeheartedly, one-directionally, without regret or 
reservation. - William H. Sheldon 
 
An army of sheep led by a lion would defeat an army of 
lions led by a sheep. - Arab proverb 
 
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That is all for this newsletter. Until next time I wish you 
all the best.  
 
To your Success.  
Tony McGlinn 
www.mypowerfulmind.com